The statement I hear the most from millennial and gen-z women in therapy is: “But when I try to set a boundary, I am the problem. I don’t want to be a burden”. This one is dedicated to you. Stand in your power, friend.

We are in this one together!

Let’s be real. The holidays are often painted as this magical time full of joy, laughter, and connection.

My truest hope is that you get IN on that. That is good stuff.

BUT… holidays also come with the other stuff. Like the stress of buying the right things, the anxiety of seeing everyone, or the pockets of grief that you did not expect - you know, that grief that comes with life just not looking how you thought it would. As a therapist, I can assure you that you are not alone. Not all feelings are going to feeling nicely wrapped with a bright bow.

I am here to tell you that it is perfectly acceptable (and encouraged) to make a plan to protect your peace, celebrate the way you see fit, and maybe invite some meaningful change into your holidays.

But what if my family or friends just disregard it or make it seem dramatic to even ask?

If they are not able to acknowledge + respect your boundaries -

they do not deserve to experience your magic today.

Yes. I said it and I meant it.

Physical Boundaries:

We are talking about HOW you take up space. We are looking at ways to express what you need to others and giving you a peek into what other’s may need from you when we talk about bodies, expression, movement.

Emotional Boundaries:

Joy, gratitude, hope… All emotions often associated with this season. Love that for us. Also love the fact that we are dynamic humans with FULL SPECTRUMS of emotions. Curious about how to create boundaries to regulate your emotions while also being authentic? Here you go ;)

Time Boundaries:

Oh Time. What a sacred thing!

Your time is valuable and just because it is a season of “giving” does not mean you have to give up your time without setting some expectations!

Material Boundaries:

Material Girls? Me. But in all seriousness, the holidays are often about shared space, sharing things, and giving. So let’s talk about some solid material boundaries to consider.

You literally are not mean.

Sometimes the boundaries we set allow us to create an even more magical season with our loved ones. I want to leave you with this encouragement.

Your space, time, material belongings, and emotions are SACRED. You are not obligated to share, but my hope for you is that you find the perfect way to spend your holiday season with family (or chosen family). May this time be filled with warmth, connection, and a whole lot of “wow I really love being a human rn” moments.

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Haleigh Culverhouse LCSW

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My name is Haleigh, and I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker based in Lake Jackson, Texas. My private practice is a safe and inclusive place for all. Whether you need to process an issue significantly impacting your life or explore more of your personality and who you are - you belong here.